第十章

痛苦和痛苦的終結(jié)

萬(wàn)事萬(wàn)物都是互相關(guān)聯(lián)的：佛教徒已經(jīng)了解這一點(diǎn)，物理學(xué)家們現(xiàn)在也證實(shí)了這一點(diǎn)。沒(méi)有什么事情是獨(dú)立發(fā)生的，只是看上去如此罷了。我們?cè)绞窍屡袛?、貼標(biāo)簽，我們就越是將它孤立起來(lái)。

由于我們的思考，生命的合一變得支離破碎。然而，這件事正是生命的整體所帶來(lái)的。它是這個(gè)聯(lián)結(jié)之網(wǎng)也就是宇宙秩序的一部分。這意味著無(wú)論當(dāng)下發(fā)生什么，就是什么，它不可能是其他的樣子。

絕大多數(shù)情況下，我們無(wú)法開(kāi)始了解，一個(gè)看上去毫無(wú)意義的事件在整個(gè)宇宙秩序中可能會(huì)扮演什么角色，但如果我們對(duì)這件事情在浩瀚無(wú)垠的整體中的必然性有所體認(rèn)，就開(kāi)啟了對(duì)當(dāng)下如是的內(nèi)在的接納，于是，我們開(kāi)始與生命的整體協(xié)調(diào)一致。

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以這樣的方式生活，就是真正的自由和痛苦的終結(jié)：無(wú)論在這一刻你感受到什么，經(jīng)驗(yàn)到什么，將它完全看作是你自己的選擇。與當(dāng)下達(dá)成內(nèi)在的協(xié)調(diào)一致，就是痛苦的終結(jié)。

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痛苦真的是必要的嗎。是，也不是。如果你不曾像過(guò)去那樣痛苦過(guò)，你就沒(méi)有作為人的深度 – 沒(méi)有謙遜，沒(méi)有同情。你現(xiàn)在就不會(huì)在聽(tīng)這個(gè)教導(dǎo)了。痛苦的傷痕撬開(kāi)了自我的殼。然后它就完成使命了。

痛苦是必要的，直到你明白痛苦是不必要的為止。

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不愉快的感受需要一個(gè)由頭腦制造的我，和一個(gè)故事，它需要這個(gè)概念性的身份。它還需要時(shí)間，過(guò)去和未來(lái)。當(dāng)你將時(shí)間從你的不愉快上移除，剩下的是什么呢？是此時(shí)此刻的“如是”。那一刻，你也許感到沉重、焦慮、緊張、憤怒，甚至惡心。這并不是不愉快，這也不是個(gè)人的問(wèn)題。

在人類(lèi)的痛苦中，沒(méi)有什么是屬于個(gè)人的。它只是你在身體的某處感受到的一種巨大的壓力或能量。藉著給予它注意力，這個(gè)感受沒(méi)有轉(zhuǎn)化為思考，也沒(méi)有激活那個(gè)不快樂(lè)的我。如果你只是允許一個(gè)感受存在，看看會(huì)發(fā)生什么。

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如果你將進(jìn)入你的頭腦里的每一個(gè)念頭當(dāng)真，就會(huì)引發(fā)很多痛苦和不愉快。情境不會(huì)使你不愉快。他們也許會(huì)帶來(lái)身體上的疼痛，但是他們不會(huì)使你感到不愉快。是你的念頭令你不愉快。你的解讀，那個(gè)你告訴自己的故事令你不快樂(lè)。“是我此刻的一些念頭，令我不快樂(lè)?！边@個(gè)領(lǐng)悟打破了你對(duì)那些念頭的無(wú)意識(shí)的認(rèn)同。

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“多么糟糕的一天。”“他沒(méi)回我電話，真沒(méi)禮貌?！薄八屛沂恕！?通常，我們都是以抱怨的形式，對(duì)自己和別人述說(shuō)這些小故事。我們無(wú)意識(shí)地設(shè)計(jì)了這些抱怨，通過(guò)使自己是正確的，使其他人或其他事是錯(cuò)誤的，來(lái)加強(qiáng)我們那匱乏的自我感?！拔沂菍?duì)的”將我們置身于一種想象的優(yōu)越感之中，從而強(qiáng)化了這個(gè)虛假的自我，這個(gè)小我。這同時(shí)也制造了某個(gè)敵人。是的，小我需要敵人來(lái)定義它的邊界。甚至是天氣也能服務(wù)于這個(gè)功能。經(jīng)由習(xí)慣性的頭腦上的判斷和情緒上的緊縮，你對(duì)生命中的人或事有一個(gè)個(gè)人化的反應(yīng)模式。這都是自己制造的各種形式的痛苦，但是人們意識(shí)不到，因?yàn)樗鼈兞钚∥腋械綕M(mǎn)足。經(jīng)由習(xí)性反應(yīng)和沖突，小我強(qiáng)化了它自己。如果沒(méi)有那些故事，生活會(huì)是多么簡(jiǎn)單啊?！跋掠炅恕！薄八麤](méi)回電?！薄拔胰チ?，她沒(méi)去?！?/p>

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當(dāng)你痛苦的時(shí)候，不開(kāi)心的時(shí)候，全然地與那一刻在一起。

不愉快或是煩惱，都無(wú)法在當(dāng)下存活。

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當(dāng)你在頭腦中給一個(gè)情境命名或貼標(biāo)簽，認(rèn)為它是煩人的或糟糕的，痛苦就開(kāi)始了。你討厭一個(gè)情境，這個(gè)抵觸情緒使這個(gè)情境個(gè)人化，并且?guī)?lái)了這個(gè)起習(xí)性反應(yīng)的我。命名或貼標(biāo)簽是習(xí)慣性的，但這個(gè)習(xí)慣可以被打破。開(kāi)始利用一些小事來(lái)練習(xí)不命名。如果你錯(cuò)過(guò)了班機(jī)、摔壞了一個(gè)杯子，或在泥濘中滑倒了，你能不能克制住自己，不給這個(gè)經(jīng)驗(yàn)貼上糟糕或令人痛苦的標(biāo)簽？你能否立即接納當(dāng)下的這個(gè)“如是”。

將某事標(biāo)注為糟糕的會(huì)在你的身體里引發(fā)一種情緒上的緊縮，當(dāng)你不給它貼標(biāo)簽，只是順其自然，突然，你會(huì)感到一股巨大的力量。這個(gè)緊縮切斷了你與這力量，這生命自身的力量的聯(lián)結(jié)。

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他們偷食了這關(guān)于善與惡的知識(shí)之樹(shù)的果實(shí)。克制住自己不要總在頭腦里給事物貼上好與壞的標(biāo)簽，你就超越了善惡的二元對(duì)立。當(dāng)你超越了這命名的習(xí)慣，宇宙的力量就會(huì)穿過(guò)你。當(dāng)你對(duì)一個(gè)經(jīng)驗(yàn)不再產(chǎn)生習(xí)性反應(yīng)，那些你過(guò)去稱(chēng)為壞的經(jīng)驗(yàn)，會(huì)經(jīng)由生命本身的力量發(fā)生轉(zhuǎn)變，這改變就算不是立即發(fā)生，常常也會(huì)比較快到來(lái)。當(dāng)你不再將一個(gè)經(jīng)驗(yàn)命名為壞的，而是對(duì)這經(jīng)驗(yàn)給予一個(gè)內(nèi)在的接納，一個(gè)內(nèi)在的“是”，允許它順其自然，看看會(huì)發(fā)生什么吧。

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無(wú)論你的生活情境如何，如果，就在現(xiàn)在，你徹底接納它本來(lái)的樣子，你的感受如何？

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痛苦有很多不同的形式，微妙的，或是不那么微妙的，它們?nèi)绱讼∷善匠?，常常不被人們看作是痛苦，甚至還有可能令小我感到滿(mǎn)足。

厭惡、焦躁、怒火、對(duì)某事或某人看不順眼、憎恨、抱怨。當(dāng)它們發(fā)生的時(shí)候，你可以學(xué)會(huì)認(rèn)出這些痛苦的形式，并且意識(shí)到，在這一刻，我正在給自己制造痛苦。

如果你正習(xí)慣性地給自己制造痛苦，你也很可能正在給別人帶來(lái)痛苦。只要在它們發(fā)生的時(shí)候認(rèn)出它們，使它們變得有意識(shí)，這些無(wú)意識(shí)的頭腦的喋喋不休就會(huì)慢慢停止。

你不可能同時(shí)是有意識(shí)的，而又在給自己制造痛苦。

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這就是那個(gè)奇跡。在每個(gè)看似“壞的”或“邪惡的”事件、個(gè)人，或情境的背后，都隱藏著一個(gè)更深的“善”。通過(guò)你對(duì)當(dāng)下所是的內(nèi)在接納，這個(gè)更深的“善”由內(nèi)到外地向你揭露出它自己。“不要抗拒邪惡”是人類(lèi)最高真理之一。

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一段對(duì)話：

“接納事情的本來(lái)面目?！?/p>

“我真的做不到。我對(duì)這事感到激動(dòng)和憤怒?！?/p>

“那就接納你現(xiàn)在的狀況?！?/p>

“接納我現(xiàn)在感到激動(dòng)和憤怒？接納我的無(wú)法接納？”

“是的。將接納帶入你的不接納。將臣服帶入你的不臣服。

然后看看會(huì)發(fā)生什么?！?/p>

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身體上的慢性疼痛是你能遇到的最嚴(yán)厲的老師之一。它要教導(dǎo)你的就是：抗拒是徒勞的。再也沒(méi)有什么比“不情愿受苦”更常見(jiàn)的了。然而，如果你可以放下這個(gè)不情愿，而是允許那痛苦存在，你也許會(huì)留意到你與這痛苦微妙地分離開(kāi)來(lái)，你與它之間有了一個(gè)空隙，這個(gè)空隙一直都存在。這意味著有意識(shí)地、心甘情愿地受苦。當(dāng)你有意識(shí)地承受痛苦，肉體上的疼痛可以迅速將你的小我燃燒殆盡，因?yàn)樾∥液艽蟪潭壬鲜怯煽咕芩M成的。對(duì)于嚴(yán)重的身體上的殘疾來(lái)說(shuō)，這也是真的?！皩⒛愕耐纯喃I(xiàn)給上帝”是對(duì)這一真理的另一種說(shuō)法。

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要理解十字架這個(gè)象征符號(hào)所包含的深刻的宇宙真理，你并不一定非得是基督徒。這個(gè)十字架是一個(gè)刑具。它代表了一個(gè)人所能遭遇到的最大的痛苦、限制和無(wú)助。然后，突然，這個(gè)人帶著全然的意識(shí)，心甘情愿地承受痛苦，他通過(guò)這樣的話語(yǔ)表達(dá)了這一點(diǎn)：“不是我的意志，而是你的意志會(huì)被完成?！痹谀且豢?，這個(gè)十字架，這個(gè)施加酷刑的工具，顯露了它隱藏的面目。

同時(shí)，它也是一個(gè)神圣的符號(hào)，是神性的象征。這個(gè)十字架，看上去似乎否定了生命中有任何超越的層面存在，然而，經(jīng)由臣服，它成為了通往那個(gè)層面的入口。

（全書(shū)完）

翻譯：游由

~~~原文如下~~~

Chapter 10
Suffering and the End of Suffering
The interconnectedness of all things: Buddhists have always known it and
physicists now confirm it. Nothing that happens is an isolated event, it only appears
to be. The more we judge and label it, the more we isolate it.
The wholeness of life becomes fragmented through our thinking. Yet the totality of
life has brought this event about. It is part of the web of interconnectedness that is
the cosmos. This means whatever is could not be otherwise.
In most cases, we cannot begin to understand what role a seemingly senseless
event may have within the totality of the cosmos but recognizing its inevitability
within the vastness of the whole can be the beginning of an inner acceptance of
what is and thus a realignment with the wholeness of life.
***
True freedom and the end of suffering is living in such a way as if you had
completely chosen whatever you feel or experience at this moment. This inner
alignment with Now is the end of suffering.
***
Is suffering really necessary. Yes and no. If you had not suffered as you have, there
would be no depths to you as a human being–no humility, no compassion. You
would not be listening to this now. Suffering cracks open the shell of ego. And then
comes a point where it has served its purpose.
Suffering is necessary until you realize that it is unnecessary.
***
Unhappiness needs a mind-made me with a story, the conceptual identity. It needs
time, past and future. When you remove time from your unhappiness, what is it that
remains? The “suchness” of this moment remains. It may be a feeling of heaviness
of heaviness, agitation, tightness, anger or even nausea. That is not unhappiness
and it is not a personal problem.
There is nothing personal in human pain. It is simply an intense pressure or an
intense energy you feel somewhere in the body. By giving it attention, the feeling
doesn't turn into thinking and thus activate the unhappy me. See what happens
when you just allow a feeling to be.
***
Much suffering, much unhappiness arises when you take each thought that comes
into your head for the truth. Situations don't make you unhappy. They may cause
you physical pain, but they don't make you unhappy. Your thoughts make you
unhappy. Your interpretations, the stories you tell yourself make you unhappy.
“The thoughts I'm thinking right now make me unhappy.” This realization breaks
you unconscious identification with those thoughts.
***
“What a miserable day.” “He didn't have the decency to return my call.” “She let
me down.” Little stores we tell ourselves and others, often in the form of
complaints. They are unconsciously designed to enhance our always deficient sense
of self through being right and making something or someone wrong. Being right
places us in a position of imagined superiority and so strengthens our false sense of
self, the ego. This also creates some kind of enemy. Yes, the ego needs enemies to
define its boundary. And even the weather can serve that function. Through
habitual mental judgment and emotional contraction you have a personalized
reactive relationship to people and events in your life. These are all forms of selfcreated
suffering but are not recognized as such because to the ego they are
satisfying. The ego enhances itself through reactivity and conflict. How simple life
would be without those stories. “It is raining.” “He did not call.” “I was there, she
was not.”
***
When you are suffering, when you are unhappy, stay totally with what is now.
Unhappiness or problems cannot survive in the Now.
***
Suffering begins when you mentally name or label a situation in some way as
undesirable or bad. You resent a situation and that resentment personalizes it and
brings in the reactive me. Naming and labeling are habitual but that habit can be
broken. Start practicing not naming with small things. If you miss the plane, drop
and break a cup, or slip and fall in the mud, can you refrain from naming the
experience as bad or painful? Can you immediately accept the “isness” of that
moment.
Naming something as bad causes an emotional contraction within you. when you
let it be without naming it, enormous power is suddenly available to you. The
contraction cuts you off from that power, the power of life itself.
***
They ate the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Go beyond good
and bad by refraining from mentally naming anything as good or bad. When you go
beyond the habitual naming, the power of the universe moves through you. When
you are in a nonreactive relationship to experiences, what you would have called
bad before, often turns around quickly, if not immediately through the power of life
itself. Watch what happens when you don't name an experience as bad and instead
bring an inner acceptance, an inner “yes” to it, and so let it be as it is.
***
Whatever your life situation is, how would you feel if you completely accepted it as
it is, right now?
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There are many subtle and not so subtle forms of suffering that are so normal, they
are usually not recognized as suffering and may even feel satisfying to the ego.
Irritation, impatience, anger, having an issue with something or someone,
resentment, complaining. You can learn to recognize all those forms of suffering as
they happen and know at this moment I am creating suffering for myself.
If you are in the habit of creating suffering for yourself, you are probably creating
suffering for others too. These unconscious mind patters tend to come to an end
simply by making them conscious, by becoming aware of them as they happen.
You cannot be conscious and create suffering for yourself.
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This is the miracle. behind every condition, person or situation that appears bad or
evil, lies concealed a deeper good. That deeper good reveals itself to you, both
within and without through inner acceptance of what is. “Resist not evil” is one of
the highest truths of humanity.
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A dialog:
"Accept what is."
"I truly cannot. I am agitated and angry about this."
"Then accept what is."
"Accept that I am agitated and angry? Accept that I cannot accept?"
"Yes. Bring acceptance into your non-acceptance. Bring surrender into your nonsurrender.
Then see what happens."
***
Chronic physical pain is one of the harshest teachers you can have. Resistance is
futile is its teaching. Nothing could be more normal than an unwillingness to suffer.
Yet, if you can let go of that unwillingness, and instead allow the pain to be there,
you may notice a subtle inner separation from the pain, a space between you and
the pain, as it were. This means to suffer consciously, willingly. When you suffer
consciously, physical pain can quickly burn up the ego in you since ego consists
largely of resistance. The same is true of extreme physical disability. “You offer up
your suffering to God,” is another way of saying this.
***
You don't need to be a Christian to understand the deep universal truth that is
contained in symbolic form in the image of the cross. The cross is a torture
instrument. It stands for the most extreme suffering, limitation, and helplessness a
human being can encounter. Then suddenly that human being suffers willingly,
consciously, expressed through the words, “not my will, but thy will be done.” At
that moment, the cross, the torture instrument shows its hidden face.
It is also a sacred symbol, a symbol for the divine. That which seemed to deny the
existence of any transcendental dimension to life, through surrender becomes an
opening into that dimension.