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Mouni Roy: My question is, complexities of any relationship, why do they beyond a point become complex? Whether it’s between girlfriends, whether it’s between boyfriends. And specially relationship between a girlfriend and a boyfriend and husband-wife.Mouni Roy：我的問題是關(guān)于關(guān)系，為什么過了一個(gè)時(shí)間點(diǎn)后關(guān)系都會(huì)變得復(fù)雜呢？不管是女性朋友之間還是男性朋友之間，還有尤其是戀愛關(guān)系和夫妻關(guān)系。Sadhguru: Namaskaram Mouni. So you are beginning to taste the sourness of relationships. Of course, everybody knows the sweetness of relationships too, but there is also a lot of sourness. Unfortunately today, we have imbibed this from the west again that if you utter the word “relationship”, people are generally thinking of body-based relationships or in some way, it has to be between a man and a woman or whatever else, but essentially, body-based relationship.Sadhguru（薩古魯）：你好，Mouni。所以你已經(jīng)開始體會(huì)到關(guān)系中的苦澀了。當(dāng)然，所有人都了解關(guān)系中的甜蜜，但其中也有很多苦澀。不幸的是，如今在這點(diǎn)上我們又受了西方的影響。也就是，如果你說出“關(guān)系”一詞，人們一般會(huì)想到的是基于肉體的關(guān)系，或者在某種程度上必須是男女之間的那一類，但本質(zhì)上是基于肉體的關(guān)系。No, relationships can be of many kinds. If they’re body-based relationships, usually the excitement about each other’s body will die after some time. What you thought was ultimate, is not ultimate after some time. It is natural that you begin to grow out of it, then when the main draw which brought people together is kind of melting away, without knowing why, they start being unpleasant to each other. Because essentially, such a relationship is towards extracting sweetness from another person, extracting happiness from another person. So if you try to squeeze joy out of somebody, after some time, you find when it doesn’t yield the same results as it used to yield in the beginning, some bitterness will begin. 不，關(guān)系可以有很多種。如果是基于肉體的關(guān)系，通常身體所激發(fā)的興奮感會(huì)在一段時(shí)間后消逝。你以為是終極的，在一段時(shí)間后，變得不再是終極。你開始從中擺脫，是件很自然的事。那么，當(dāng)初吸引彼此的因素消逝的時(shí)候，莫名其妙地，你們就會(huì)開始討厭對(duì)方。這是因?yàn)椋举|(zhì)上這種關(guān)系是為了從對(duì)方身上索取甜蜜，從對(duì)方身上索取幸福。所以如果你試圖從某人身上榨取快樂，過段時(shí)間后你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)，當(dāng)結(jié)果不再如交往當(dāng)初那樣如意時(shí)，一些恨意會(huì)就此升起。It is important when you are young, certain things may happen. As you start growing older... When I say older, from yesterday to today, you’re older. I am not saying you’re old, Mouni, I’m just saying from yesterday to today you’re a little older. So today, you must be thinking in terms of that relationships that you hold in your life, not necessarily in terms of biological relationships, any kind of relationship that you hold if relationship is based on your expression of joy, not on extraction of joy.重要的是，在你年輕時(shí)，可能發(fā)生了一些事，隨著你年歲漸長……這里我指的是，從昨天到今天，你又年長了一點(diǎn)。我不是說Mouni你現(xiàn)在已經(jīng)老了，我只是說從昨天到今天你又長大了一點(diǎn)。所以今天，你必須思考，在你的人生中所保持的所有關(guān)系中，我說的并不一定是生理關(guān)系，而是你所擁有的任何關(guān)系中，你的關(guān)系是否是基于你對(duì)快樂的表達(dá)，而不是對(duì)快樂的索取。<>n>For this, you must become joyful by your own nature, first of all. If you focus on this, that you are an exuberant overflow of joy, if it is so and your relationship is only about sharing this, then you don’t have to worry about the normal circus that people go through in terms of relationships.首先，為此你必須自發(fā)地變得快樂。如果你關(guān)注于讓自己變成一股充滿生機(jī)的快樂源泉，如果你能做到這一點(diǎn)，并且你的關(guān)系只是為了分享它，那么你不必?fù)?dān)心人們?cè)陉P(guān)系中一般會(huì)經(jīng)歷的鬧劇。Managing relationships means, in day to day life, a relationship may not stay just in one area of life, once people are together they will have to share many things. Naturally you will start stepping on each other’s toes for many, many small things that happen. Because of this, there will be many interactions or you can even call them altercations, they will happen. All this you cannot manage on a daily basis. People think they can manage, after some time you will see, you cannot manage. So the best thing is to manage yourself in such a way that you’re a natural, exuberant, joyful being. 處理關(guān)系意味著在日常生活中，一段關(guān)系可能不會(huì)只限于生活的某一領(lǐng)域。一旦人們選擇在一起，他們不得不分享很多東西，很自然地你會(huì)開始在數(shù)不清的小事上冒犯對(duì)方。因此會(huì)有很多互動(dòng)，或者你可以稱之為口角。會(huì)發(fā)生這類事情。所有這些你沒法每天去處理。人們以為他們可以應(yīng)對(duì)，但是一段時(shí)間后你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)，你無法應(yīng)對(duì)。所以最好的選擇是管理自身，讓自己成為一個(gè)自發(fā)的、充滿活力的、快樂的人。If this is so, relationships will happen, and relationships will not be need-based. When relationships are need-based, if what you need does not come, you will start cribbing, you will start complaining, and you will start feeling bitter that what you are supposed to get you are not getting. If you eliminate this need within you that you are a natural overflow of joy, if this one thing you do, you can have fabulous relationship with every kind of people irrespective of who they are. They don’t have to be your kind. With all sorts of people you can hold wonderful relationships. May you have the most beautiful relationships in your life.如果能做到這一點(diǎn)，關(guān)系就會(huì)產(chǎn)生，并且它將不再基于需求。當(dāng)關(guān)系基于需求時(shí)，如果你的需求沒有實(shí)現(xiàn)，你會(huì)開始變得難受，你會(huì)開始抱怨，并且你會(huì)開始感到一絲恨意，認(rèn)為你沒有得到應(yīng)該得到的。如果你從內(nèi)在去除這種需要，讓自己變成一股自然的快樂源泉，如果你只是做這一件事，你就能與任何類型的人都擁有非常美妙的關(guān)系，不管他們是誰。他們不需要和你是同一類人，與各種人你都能保持美妙的關(guān)系。祝愿你在生命中擁有最美好的關(guān)系。
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