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?? 我想和你分享一個(gè)游戲。 我要你去想象一個(gè)沙漠，一直延展到你所能看到的最遠(yuǎn)端。在這個(gè)沙漠中有個(gè)立方體。 你的第一個(gè)任務(wù)就是去描述這個(gè)立方體。它是什么樣子的？它有多大？它是由什么做的？它具體在什么位置？ 這里沒(méi)有正確答案，只有你的答案。在你繼續(xù)之前花一些時(shí)間，細(xì)節(jié)是很重要的。 當(dāng)你看著沙漠和你的立方體時(shí)，你發(fā)現(xiàn)還有一架梯子。你的第二個(gè)任務(wù)（只有有五個(gè)任務(wù)）是去描述這架梯子。它是由什么做的？它有多大？相對(duì)立方體它在哪？ 現(xiàn)在想象一下在這個(gè)場(chǎng)景中有一匹馬。你的第三個(gè)任務(wù)是：描述這匹馬。最重要的是：這匹馬在哪，它在做什么？如果在某個(gè)地方，它的情況是怎樣的？ 我們現(xiàn)在很接近了。在你眼前的場(chǎng)景，有許多鮮花。你的倒數(shù)第二個(gè)任務(wù)是描述這些花。那兒有多少？它們是怎樣的？它們相比起馬，立方體，梯子和沙位置在哪？ 最后一個(gè)問(wèn)題。在沙漠里有一場(chǎng)風(fēng)暴。描述這場(chǎng)風(fēng)暴。它是什么類(lèi)型的？它很近或者很遠(yuǎn)？它前往什么方向？它會(huì)影響馬，鮮花，立方體或者是梯子嗎？ 如果你一直按照步驟做下來(lái)，有趣的就要來(lái)了。準(zhǔn)備好了？現(xiàn)在不能回頭了。 … … … 這個(gè)立方體就是你自己。 它的大小是你表面上的自我。一個(gè)大的立方體說(shuō)明你對(duì)自己非常確定，小的立方體稍差一些。立方體的垂直布局說(shuō)明你有多腳踏實(shí)地。靜止在沙地上？你很可能是個(gè)非?，F(xiàn)實(shí)的人。飄浮在空中？你比較愛(ài)幻想。 這個(gè)立方體的材料說(shuō)明了你對(duì)他人有多公開(kāi)。透明的立方體屬于坦率的人，不透明的立方體屬于那些心思不外露的人。鮮艷的？你很可能是個(gè)積極的人，你希望去提高他人的情緒。花崗巖做的？你很可能是個(gè)有保護(hù)欲且固執(zhí)己見(jiàn)的人。 這里的技巧是，當(dāng)你被要求去描述一個(gè)空白抽象的實(shí)體——一個(gè)立方體，你的想象力會(huì)把自己的身份投射到物體上。 梯子代表著你的朋友。 你的“朋友”靠在立方體上嗎？你的朋友依靠你，而且非常親近。梯子是非常脆弱還是非常結(jié)實(shí)的？高的還是矮的？它通往立方體的內(nèi)部嗎？或者它被扔到一邊，躺在沙地上？現(xiàn)在你能得出自己的結(jié)論了。 馬代表著你的理想伴侶。 馬的類(lèi)型說(shuō)明了很多關(guān)于你對(duì)伴侶的渴望。一些人看到了一批沉穩(wěn)的棕色馱馬，其他人看到一匹閃亮的飛馬或者獨(dú)角獸。這些便代表著你的意愿。 如果這匹馬親切地愛(ài)撫你的立方體，或者在上面咬一口？它離你的立方體很遠(yuǎn)或者走開(kāi)了？這代表了你目前的伴侶，或者是你夢(mèng)寐以求的，但結(jié)果通常伴著感動(dòng)和歡笑。 花代表著孩子。 花的多少和你有多少想象有關(guān)。一些人只看到一朵花，一朵枯萎的雛菊；其他人看到一個(gè)華麗的花園，覆蓋著下面的立方體和沙漠?；ǘ涞念伾突盍φf(shuō)明了它們的健康和假定的繁榮。 最后，風(fēng)暴代表著威脅。 這說(shuō)明了一個(gè)人現(xiàn)在的狀態(tài)，以及他們是怎么感知生活中的風(fēng)險(xiǎn)。一些人也許看到了遙遠(yuǎn)的風(fēng)暴，在視野的邊上，感覺(jué)要消失在視線之外。其他人也許認(rèn)為他們就在雷鳴般的啟示之中，網(wǎng)球大小的冰雹攻擊著他們脆弱的立方體和馬。這說(shuō)明這些人在生活中有些直接的創(chuàng)傷。 現(xiàn)在這些都是正確的嗎？當(dāng)然不是。你不是在讀一本同行評(píng)審雜志，看上面關(guān)于馬和梯子的預(yù)言性質(zhì)。這只是一個(gè)游戲，雖然已經(jīng)經(jīng)歷了幾千年的不同形式。 但是假如你一直玩下來(lái)，我建議你在其他人身上試試，你可能會(huì)對(duì)它的可靠性有不可思議的感覺(jué)?；蛟S有很多原因：人們會(huì)把他們自己投射到一些抽象的物體上（立方體），以及他們對(duì)動(dòng)物的喜愛(ài)（馬）。對(duì)花朵的培育和培養(yǎng)孩子有一些相似之處，風(fēng)暴是環(huán)境中危險(xiǎn)的信號(hào)，它會(huì)接近我們不安的感覺(jué)；而梯子是我們發(fā)現(xiàn)能夠幫助的東西。也許這些都只是我們一廂情愿的心理囈語(yǔ)。 但是我要告訴你。這是去了解某人的一個(gè)難以置信的工具。在五分鐘之內(nèi)你就能發(fā)現(xiàn)一個(gè)陌生人的性格，朋友，伴侶，孩子，風(fēng)險(xiǎn)，夢(mèng)想和志向。你將會(huì)變成一個(gè)令人難忘的人引人注目，而且或許你也能夠笑出來(lái)。 I want you to imagine a desert, stretching out as far as your eyes can see. In this desert is a cube. Your first task is to describe the cube. What does it look like? How large is it? What is it made of? Where exactly is it? There are no right answers here, only your answers. Take a moment before you continue – the detail is important. As you look at the desert and your cube, you notice there is also a ladder. Your second task (there are just five) is to describe the ladder. What is it made of? How big is it? Where is it, in relation to the cube? Now imagine that in the scene there is a horse. (Yes, horse. I didn’t say this desert made sense). Your third task: describe the horse. Most importantly: where is the horse and what is it doing? Where, if anywhere, is it going? We’re nearly there now. In the scene before you, are flowers. Your penultimate task: describe the flowers. How many are there? What do they look like? Where are they, in relation to the horse, cube, ladder and sand? Final question. In the desert there is a storm. Describe the storm. What type of storm is it? Is it near, or far? What direction is it headed? Does it affect the horse, flowers, cube or ladder? If you’ve been playing along, this is going to be fun. Ready? There’s no going back. … ... ... The cube is yourself. The size is ostensibly your ego: a large cube means you’re pretty sure of yourself, a small cube less so. The vertical placement of the cube is how grounded you are. Resting on the sand? You’re probably pretty down to earth. Floating in the sky? Your head is in the clouds. The cube’s material conveys how open you are: transparent cubes belong to transparent people, opaque cubes are more protective of their minds. Glowing? You’re likely a positive person, who aims to raise the spirits of others. Made of granite? You’re likely protective and resilient. The trick here is that when asked to describe a blank, abstract entity – a cube – your imagination will tend to project its own identity onto it. This trick is as old as time, but it’s about to get more interesting. The ladder represents your friends. Are your friends leaning on the cube? Your friends depend on you, and are close. Is the ladder frail, or robust? Tall or short? Does it lead inside the cube? Or is it cast to one side, lying unloved on the sand? By now you should be able to draw your own conclusions. The horse represents your dream partner. The type of horse reveals a lot about what you yearn for in a partner. Some people see a steady brown workhorse, others a shining Pegasus or unicorn. Make of these people what you will. Is your horse nuzzling your cube affectionately, or taking a bite out of it? Is it far from your cube, or walking away? This can represent a current partner, or an aspiration one, but the results are often a mix of touching and hilarious. The flowers represent children. The number of flowers relates to how many you imagine having. Some people see just a single, withered daisy; others a resplendent garden covering the cube and desert beneath. (Guys: watch out for those). The color and vitality of the flowers can speak to their health and presumed prosperity. Finally, the storm represents threat. This speaks to the current state of the person, and how they perceive risk in their life. Some may see a distant storm, on the lip of the horizon, fading from sight. Others may view themselves in the midst of a thunderous apocalypse, hailstones the size of tennis balls pelting their fragile cube and horse. Chances are those people have some immediate trauma in their life. Now is this all correct? Of course it isn’t. You won’t be reading any peer-reviewed journals on the soothsaying properties of horses and ladders. This is a game, albeit one that has endured in various forms for thousands of years. But if you play along – and I encourage you to try this on others – you will find it appears to have an uncanny sense of reliability to it. There might be many reasons: people seem to project themselves onto abstract objects (the cube), and their affections onto animals (the horse). Our nurturing of flowers bears some resemblance to that of children, a storm is a signal of environmental danger that taps into our sense of unease, and a ladder is something we find supporting. Maybe it’s all just wishful psychobabble. But I’ll tell you what. It’s an incredible tool for getting to know someone. In five minutes you’re able to discuss a stranger’s character, friends, partner, children, risks, dreams and aspirations. You will stand out as someone memorable, and you probably had a right laugh too. |
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來(lái)自： 拯救蘿卜 > 《待分類(lèi)》
