女孩都被教導(dǎo)要改造自己迎合他人，千萬不要這樣做，總有人會喜歡真實的你。每一刻的逃避、偽裝，每一刻因為順從他人而言不由衷，都是在浪費生命。免費關(guān)注微信公眾號 jiarenorg ，就能天天收到佳人精彩文章了，還有機會和主編小陌一對一私聊喔，咱們微信里見！

近日，美國著名女校維斯理學(xué)院（Wellesley College）邀請尼日利亞女作家奇瑪曼達·恩戈茲·阿迪契（Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie）在2015年畢業(yè)典禮上發(fā)表演講。阿迪契與即將踏入社會的女生們分享了她對女權(quán)主義的獨到見解和一些人生建議，她說，“永遠不要因為‘你是個女人’而去做什么或放棄什么?！?/p>

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演講要點（獻給女孩們）：

All over the world, girls are raised to make themselves likeable, to twist themselves into shapes that suit other people. Please do not twist yourself into shapes to please. Don’t do it.
全世界的女孩都被教導(dǎo)要讓自己惹人喜愛，改造自己去迎合他人，請不要這樣做，千萬不要。

If someone likes that version of you, that version of you that is false and holds back, then they actually just like that twisted shape, and not you. And the world is such a gloriously multifaceted, diverse place that there are people in the world who will like you, the real you as you are.
如果有人喜歡那樣的你，那個虛假的有所隱瞞的你，那他們喜歡的只是那個虛影，而不是你。世界那么奇妙多樣化，總有人會喜歡真實的你，那個你原本的樣子。

Teach your students to see that vulnerability is a HUMAN rather than a FEMALE trait. Commission magazine articles that teach men HOW TO KEEP A WOMAN HAPPY. Because there are already too many articles that tell women how to keep a man happy.
教導(dǎo)你的學(xué)生，脆弱啊你的名字不止是女人。撰寫教導(dǎo)男人取悅女人的雜志文章，因為已經(jīng)有太多的文章教導(dǎo)女人如何取悅男人。

I don’t speak to provoke. I speak because our time on earth is short, and each moment that we are not our truest selves, each moment we pretend to be what we are not, each moment we say what we do not mean because we imagine that is what somebody want us to say, then we are wasting our time on earth. I don’t mean to sound precious, but please don’t waste your time on earth.
我發(fā)言不為挑釁，只因為生命太過短暫，而每一刻的逃避，每一刻的偽裝，每一刻的言不由衷，都是在浪費自己的生命。我不是在燉雞湯，但請不要浪費生命。

There are certain things my mother believes a person should do for the simple reason that sad person “is a woman”. Such as occasionally nod and smile, even when smiling is the last thing one wants to do. Such as strategically give in to certain arguments, especially when arguing with a non-female. Such as get married and have children. I can think of fairly good reasons for doing any of these. But “because you are a woman” is not one of them. Never ever accept “because you are a woman” as a reason for doing or not doing anything.
我母親認為，身為女人，就意味著有些事情不得不做。例如不時點頭和微笑，即使她可能并不情愿；例如策略性地讓步，尤其是在和男性爭執(zhí)的時候；例如結(jié)婚生子，我可以想出很多正當?shù)睦碛扇プ鲞@些事情，但絕不會因為“你是一個女人”。永遠不要將“自己是一個女人”作為做或不做某件事的理由。

Now girls are often raised to see love only as giving. Women are praised for their love when that love is an act of giving. But to love is to give AND to take. Please love by giving and by taking. Give and be given. Dare to take.

現(xiàn)在的女孩把愛情視為奉獻，女人因她們的給予之愛而倍加褒獎。但是愛意味著給予和索取。請記得在給予愛的同時也要索取愛。給予和被給予。勇敢去索取。（來源）

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